Idealism

After several bimbotic posts, I shall revert to something which actually reflects the blog address, haha... And can you people stop scandalising my life! Go laugh at the picture of the hairbrush or tissue paper instead can, =P

Anyways, I wouldn't consider myself a cynic of love and relationships. I do believe that love, relationships and all that shit (see the irony) can happen and does happen. However, what I am critical about is the prediction of relationships and feelings. It seems to me that people tend to idealise relationships (in this case those between couples) and assume that everything will remain that way once everything is fine and dandy. Often enough, it also seems to be the guys who have this mentality. They have this perfect envisionment of the future with their partners whether it be several months or several years away which may however not necessarily be the case all the time. Yes, happy-ever-ending stories can and do happen, but one has to realise the fact that we are constantly being shaped and tweaked by the society we grow up in whether of not this be conscious or sub-consciously.

Man often has this egotistical presumption that we are unimpressionable by our surroundings, but the actual fact is, we are constantly bombarded by things which shape and re-shape our ideals and mould our principles. Even if we Christians were to say that we stand by the Bible, in all honesty, how infallable are we? The point here is that nothing can ever remain the same forever, especially when you talk about human relationships. Why do you think Cheena philosophers often liken our lives to ever-flowing, luohan populated rivers? We are likewise, never constant and in fact, the most fickle creatures on this planet. (Xw's just exceptionally fickle! =P) What you experience in a relationship now may not necessarily be so 5 years or even 5 months down the road. Unlike what we think, we are actually extremely vulnerable creatures who are susceptable to something as small as a newspaper review introducing a new idea into our heads. I've recently come across several people who seem to just copy their current state and paste it in the frame of what they call the future, thinking that yea, we'll get married, have 5 children and a dog (not directed at anyone =) I have to admit, relationships are the most unpredictable things, and sometimes signing your name on that certificate isn't a 100% guarantee of a life-time of happiness, it's a contract, a bond, and some people choose to have no qualms as to breaking them. I wouldn't call this being cynical or critical, I'm simply being realistic and honest. You think you'll definitely marry the person you're with now or whoever it is you'll be with in the future? Not unless you make it happen, because it's easy to just drop everything and go once things change. And being with one for more than 5 years doesn't mean anything either, I've seen plenty of long looong term relationships end just as easily.

Well, it's just what I've been thinking about with all the on-goings around me. Note: AROUND not WITH ok. Have a happy week people!

By the way, look at the size of my CPU! HAHAHA!!